Terms & Agreements
for Slow Down Together
Attendance
This is a participatory cohort of 10-20 participants. For optimal individual and group experience, we ask registrants to commit to attending all six sessions live. Recordings will be made available, but a large portion of our content will revolve around our interactions, conversations, and play together. Please consider not signing up if you cannot attend at least four sessions live and note in the sign-up if you are aware of dates in advance you will not be able to come. If life circumstances arise that prevent you from coming to some or all sessions once the course has begun, please be in touch via email.
We will make our best effort to show up on time and ready to participate to the extent of our ability and consent in every session. We understand that capacities fluctuate and life happens. We commit to non-judgement in meeting one another where we are at.
Confidentiality & Consent
This is a collective practice space. While you may experience opening, growth, or transformation within this series, Eris and Leroy are not therapists and this is not therapy. While we intend to support you as facilitators, we cannot guarantee any particular results from this course. It is up to you what you choose to practice, decline, and consider during and between our sessions together.
We honor and respect what is personally shared in the space with confidentiality. Lessons learned and experience gained may be cross-pollinated freely, but we don’t share names or tell other’s stories without permission from the person.
Payments
Participants decide their final cost within the limits of the sliding scale provided by facilitators. Facilitators will not ask any follow up questions with regards to the participant’s decision. To best assess the appropriate cost for you, visit the Sliding Scale Guide. Participants have the option of paying in installments, rather than full cost upfront. There is no interest attached to an installment plan. Payments will be auto-drafted on the third Tuesday of each month. It is part of the agreement that all six payments are completed regardless of your ability to attend live each month.
15% of proceeds from the course will be redistributed to local organizing initiatives created by and for BIPOC community.
No refunds available.
Accessibility & Access Needs
We invite you to honor your emergent body data/knowledge/wisdom regarding your access needs and capacity to participate in each session and activity. All activities will be invitational and grounded in consent. Access options will be given as often as possible to ensure space for diverse participation, and you may always adapt our invitations to meet your needs where you are at, ask for support from facilitators to this end, or opt out of any activity.
Photo & Video Release
Each Zoom session will be recorded. Session recordings are for participant use only. If you do not want your video to be recorded, you may turn your camera off while speaking. Recording will stop during connection room sessions. Video recordings will be emailed to course participants within 72 hours of the live session.
With the knowledge of participants, we may at times take screenshots or select video footage for promotional material. Participants are welcome to decline photos at the time, or ask us not to use them in the future. However, if we do not hear explicit declines or retractions, Snailshell and Betula have permission to use photos and videos on our websites and social media.
Naming & Challenging Oppression
This space acknowledges the reality of systemic oppressions including racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia and transmisogyny, ableism, anti-semitism, Islamophobia, xenophobia, cis-heteropatriarchy upheld by white supremacy culture and late-stage capitalism. As facilitators, we acknowledge that we embody mixed identities, some of which have been systemically privileged & others which have made us &/or our lineages targets of oppression. Our intention is to act in solidarity and support of communities most impacted by systemic oppression, owning that we can and will make mistakes in this relational work.
We welcome individuals to bring their full identities & lived experiences into the course. Holding that each of our experiences are informed by different degrees of privilege, oppression, and their intersections, we enter this space with shared values for respecting, listening, and learning alongside one another. We honor that this process is nuanced, and aim to reduce harm while maintaining space for self exploration and growth through an abolitionist lens. If you experience a hurt, harm, disagreement, or conflict in Slow Down Together that you wish to process with someone other than a/the facilitator(s) or those directly involved, you may submit a request for support from InterPlay here. We intend to challenge systems of oppression and dominance, bravely try on new ways of relating, and honor the process as non-linear and implicitly unpredictable. We will move slowly.
InterPlay Community Practices
We all get to show up as we are.
However we show up—-mind, heart, body, and spirit-—is plenty. We welcome the whole of our gifts and abilities, alongside our limitations and growing edges. What we offer of ourselves in play is always welcomed and enough.
We welcome and respect all stories, dances, and songs equally.
We show up in our truth, open to hearing other’s truth, and we hold that multiple truths can exist alongside one another. We celebrate our uniqueness and diversity of experience. We honor that others’ stories are not ours to tell. We can ask that our particular stories be held in confidence when we choose.
We make space, take space.
We strive to create space for everyone. Sometimes that requires us to step up and other times to step back. We want to be aware of voices that have been historically or systemically ignored and practice centering these voices.
We speak from our own experience.
We use “I” rather than “we” statements, trying not to generalize our own experience to that of others. It also gives us more direct access to our own unique experience.
We practice embracing uncertainty and discomfort.
We know that discomfort and growth dance hand-to-hand. We accept that “our way” may not be the “best” or “only” way. We try to listen with curiosity and wonder rather than judgment. We use “yes and” language as a way to co-create our way together.
We value interconnectedness.
We understand that connections with others are crucial to our health and well-being, so we move boldly toward community. We also understand that sometimes connections weaken or rupture and need strengthening or repair. We also seek to acknowledge impact and address it with care and compassion. We can say “ouch” and we can say “sorry.”
We look for the good.
We practice affirming each other. We assume best intentions.